Sociopath


Wow! Having fallen prey to a sociopath or two in my past…I can’t help but wonder…

 

…why?

 

And I guess my hopes that they’d eventually realize what hell they’d
put me through when I made them a priority in my life is worthless.

How many of us have dated a sociopath

Someone turned me on to this the other day and, by golly, I really may have been dating a sociopath. Not the type who will pull out a gun and shoot you, but the type who goes out of his/her way to kill the human spirit. Google it for more info and please, don’t email me. I was just as stunned as you when I read the profile.

Profile of the Sociopath

Glibness and Superficial Charm

Manipulative and Conning

They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.

Grandiose Sense of Self

Feels entitled to certain things as “their right.”

Pathological Lying

Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.

Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt

A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.

Shallow Emotions

When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.

Incapacity for Love

Need for Stimulation

Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.

Callousness/Lack of Empathy

Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others’ feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.

Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature

Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.

Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency

Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet “gets by” by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.

Irresponsibility/Unreliability

Not concerned about wrecking others’ lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.

Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity

Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.

Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle

Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.

Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility

Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily.

  • Location: And didn’t even know it
  • it’s NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

Original URL: http://sfbay.craigslist.org/eby/rnr/449997302.html
————————————————-
this craigslist posting was forwarded to you by someone using our
email-a-friend feature – if you want to prevent these, please go to:
http://www.craigslist.org/cgi-bin/te/uJ3ZllXZtdHZ5BkbvhWYj5ybA02bQ

————————————————-

7 thoughts on “Sociopath

  1. I was once engaged to a celebrity figure (Venesa Talor) who shows all the telltale signs of a sociopath. When we started dating, she had some money problems. I took pity upon her and helped her with some bills. My help eventually became complete support. Looking back now, I think the entire engagement was probably phony and only a means to extract money from me. When you believe that you’re going to actually marry someone, you don’t hesitate to help them because you have a vested interest in his or her future. The problem is that Venesa has no interest in settling down with anybody. Come on, a beautiful, former porn star who has never been married at 41? That should have been my first red flag. When she realized that she was in too deep, she decided to end her engagement facade, but not before racking up an extra $1000 worth of unauthorized charges to my credit card only hours before breaking it off with me.

    Like

  2. If i asked him what wrong or whats going on he would blank and shut down. I always had this feelings something was wrong I mean he never did anything but I was always afraid to be alone with him. He would act like he had no money because he would spend it all friviously. He was seeing people behind my back but I couldn’t catch him . I got lost and instead of asking em about how I was he was like ,, i wish i could hang outside. If we would get into a fight he would ignore me then when he felt like it talk to me.

    Like

  3. I did when I first met him he seemed like a nerd. He worked out but hid his face with this long hair cut and when felt like whatever something he did bad was over he would cut i t again. Then I found out he had tons of friends. He told me that his friend died fyi he didn’t . He was not doing our work in class but believed he was above doing his h.w. He would like act like someone abused him a and if I asked him about his where about he would not say anything .e He would say i don’t lie then not answer our question. One night laying together he sat up all night watching as if he was waiting for something to happen. I never got him angry because i always felt like he was exercising his limits in patience. Like I asked him how was our day at work and he never had a story about a bad day or whatever like he didn’t work. I almost drove down to his job( he said he had) but decided not to . He was glib like he would like about everything and when he realized i knew thing he didn’t he got pissed. He broke into my facebook and still does to knwo about my where abouts.He knows something but he doesn’t say anthing.

    Like

  4. You described a “narcissistic personality” to a T. Just look in DSM IV for definitons of psychiatiric disorders. I have dealt with these personalities professionally and they are very tough to get through to for obvious reasons

    Like

  5. Hey woman glad you posted this! Thought about the both of when I read it. Thanks for the drink lastnight. Here’s to many more! Wub Yah!

    Like

  6. Hey you!

    Post this or not, your choice 😉 I only wrote it for the more naive reader who tends to take everything literally … lol.

    ———————————–

    Read – “Without Conscience” (1999) Hare, Robert D.

    ———————————–

    From a professional diagnostic point of view:

    At least three of the following need to be consistently observable before a diagnosis of an antisocial personality disorder (psychopath/sociopath) can be made:

    Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest.

    Deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure.

    Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead.

    Irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults.

    Reckless disregard for safety of self or others.

    Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work, behavior or to honor financial obligations.

    Lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another.

    From DSMIV. American Psychiatric Association, 1994.

    Though the above is consistent with your list you don’t mention that at least 3 of the above traits need to be considered an integral part of the person’s personality (as opposed to uncharacteristic reactions to circumstance).

    The difficulty is that we can probably indentify one or more of these traits in everyone. Particularly when we’re trying to find fault in or justify other’s actions or when another’s responses or modus operandi differs from ours.

    ——————————————-

    Still taking an interest.

    Hope you’re well!

    E 😉

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.