I have a very hard time verbally describing my feelings. If the person I try describing them to has no patience and becomes defensive towards me then I shut down. There’s no reason to try to even continue after that. I won’t be able to put anything together & have it make sense.
How fucking hard is it to understand “I’m feeling like you don’t care about me like you used to”? Or, “you hurt my feelings”?
I heard something recently that made a lot of sense to me. It was some psychiatrist and she was discussing relationships. A woman asked her how do you know if you are with the right person? She said, “you’ll know because you won’t ever question their loyalty, you’ll just naturally trust them because they will always do the things you need without ever having to say anything to them, they’ll call all the time, they’ll ask the right questions and you’ll never have that anxious feeling (the one ya get when you think they’re cheating because they ARE cheating) with them ever, you won’t ever question their love for you”.
If it’s just that simple, why can’t it be just as simple to accept it and move on?