I had a bunch of SHIT happen yesterday that I need an opinion/advice on. Let me give you a bit of background information on it…
- The girls involved are 10 (my niece) and 12 (my daughter).
- They were both given new cell phones by their Grandmother at the same time and the bill goes to her.
Yesterday my daughter went to a birthday party and met a girl that goes to school with my niece. My daughter sent her cousin a text message telling her she was at a birthday party and had met a classmate of hers. Her cousin replied saying that she didn’t care and that she was off doing something more fun (stupid drama, I know…but bare with me). My daughter replied back saying that there were a bunch of hot guys at the party too and how fun it is (yes, she IS my daughter). Her cousin replied back again and said she didn’t care because her boyfriend was the hottest guy out there. My daughter responded with, “I have your boyfriends number, I’ve talked to him and he’s a fag”(I know, I know…I’m almost done). From there the two of them went round & round with little insults until my daughter stopped responding. (Note: my daughter never called her cousins boyfriend, she did have his number at one point because her cousin asked her to call him for something but she did not keep it)
(Ain’t parenting FUN!?!)
About an hour after we got home from the birthday party my daughter gets a phone call from her cousin. She says to my daughter…”my Dad (my brother who I haven’t considered is family for a while now) got a new truck, we’re out in front of your house, come outside and look at it and take a picture of it”. My daughter said no and hung up. Her cousin (who is 10, FFS) knocks on the front door. I answer it and look out past my niece and see my brother hiding in my front yard close to the front door. I tell my daughter to talk to her cousin. I step back and give them some space but I remain close to hear what happens. My niece just stands there, not saying anything, shaking like a leaf. The two just stare at each other. I pipe up and ask her to say what she’s gotta say. So she says to my daughter, “why do you have my boyfriends number in your phone, you need to stop calling him and take his number out of your phone”. My daughter tells her she never had his number in her phone, nor did she ever call him then invited her to look for herself. My niece took her phone and started to look through it. Then she started pressing buttons like she was deleting things and my daughter told her to stop and give it back. She pulled away and my daughter went after her, grabbed her arm that had her phone in it, her cousin yanked it away then threw the phone down on the ground hard. My BROTHER comes out from behind my garage, RUNS to the phone and HUCKS it out into the street, then gets in his truck and runs over it on purpose.
(Ain’t family GREAT!?!)
Of course, cell phones and MySpace are so important to the kids these days so my absolutely devastated daughter called her Grandma to tell her what had just happened. Grandma’s initial reaction to it was she would replace her phone and cancel her cousins phone. She threw in that my brother will need to find a new babysitter AND a new mother because what he did wasn’t acceptable (right ma, just like all the times he’s treated me or my family this way before. The fucking guy is 44 years old he needs to get over the fact that I’m here to stay and not a hamster they brought home one day that is just gonna die when it’s mistreated). Anyway, ooops…so my question(s) is(are) this(these):
- Should Grandma replace the phone?
- Should Uncle Jealous replace her phone?
- Should Cousin Jealous get to keep her phone/lose her phone?
I ended up calling the police and filing a report and I’m going today to get a restraining order against my brother. I obviously stand behind my daughter and although I don’t think it was very nice to tease her cousin the way she did, my brother should not have gotten involved the way he did. So…I wonder if there’s an easy answer or if there’s an answer at all? Can you see it with impartial eyes and come up with a solution? He thinks he did nothing wrong (according to my mom) and that my daughter is to blame for all of it. Even if she is, the two girls should have handled it without anyone else getting involved. Am I wrong??? HELLLLLLLLP!